tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2049514221380220929.post6369635799819533380..comments2023-09-13T16:56:20.080-04:00Comments on the whining diner and wellfedfred: translating the dress codewellfedfredhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07118802089389931227noreply@blogger.comBlogger27125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2049514221380220929.post-44422041336167542192012-10-15T08:25:11.342-04:002012-10-15T08:25:11.342-04:00I am very sorry for your loss.
(((Hugs)))I am very sorry for your loss.<br /><br />(((Hugs)))kitsmommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03707879362149921762noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2049514221380220929.post-68609816835079746102012-10-14T09:12:51.117-04:002012-10-14T09:12:51.117-04:00More thanks, kind and compassionate friends! And y...More thanks, kind and compassionate friends! And yes, I'm back to thinking forward. It was a great memorial, we had a terrific time, my godfather had specifically left money for the party and we all honored his wishes with enthusiasm.wellfedfredhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07118802089389931227noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2049514221380220929.post-23821005254400463412012-10-14T08:56:45.345-04:002012-10-14T08:56:45.345-04:00Here's hoping the fact that you are reading ot...Here's hoping the fact that you are reading other people's blogs means the headache never happened. Are you preparing your color story for your most well deserved flight of European fancy?<br />Best,<br />AAyippeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12988305419828609142noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2049514221380220929.post-71278081361489407362012-10-14T06:38:38.241-04:002012-10-14T06:38:38.241-04:00Oh wellfedfred, I am so sorry to hear about your l...Oh wellfedfred, I am so sorry to hear about your loss! Your Uncle Mike sounds like such a special man, and the tribute you have written truly honors him. I hope that the pain you feel after his passing will ease a bit more each day, and only the wonderful memories will remain. Melissa@AllThingsSimplifiedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06076948687302539385noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2049514221380220929.post-59902696447812695092012-10-14T04:31:46.082-04:002012-10-14T04:31:46.082-04:00I'm so sorry about your loss, WFF. And thank y...I'm so sorry about your loss, WFF. And thank you for sharing a bit about that gem of a gentleman. tiffany rosehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16105832290440620053noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2049514221380220929.post-57632263054150399252012-10-14T03:37:36.200-04:002012-10-14T03:37:36.200-04:00So sad and so beautifully written.
When very speci...So sad and so beautifully written.<br />When very special people leave us, I can't help feeling how terribly unfair it is, as irrational as that may be.<br />Although I am not religious and I do not believe in an afterlife, I do feel that we can leave behind is a part of us that will continue to live and shape lives, and this is especially true for extraordinary people such as your uncle.<br />Crishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01980326434149977392noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2049514221380220929.post-66557861797365267582012-10-13T21:38:58.944-04:002012-10-13T21:38:58.944-04:00Oh Fred, so sorry about you uncle but st least it ...Oh Fred, so sorry about you uncle but st least it sounds like the service went well and you could all share many good stories together. Beautiful post and your uncle must really rest in peace with all of you having such great memories of him.<br />I vouch for the water tool, it has cried plenty of headaches for me especially if you drink plenty before going to bed.ajchttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15697200294387151584noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2049514221380220929.post-51581341475194178692012-10-13T21:14:12.770-04:002012-10-13T21:14:12.770-04:00Oh, Fred, I am so sorry. It sounds like he was a d...Oh, Fred, I am so sorry. It sounds like he was a delight and the good Lord knows those are in short supply these days. All my old folks are gone, excepting Aunt Rosie(you know about her) and I miss them terribly. I am certain they are all in heaven, they were all such wonderful people-I was such a fortunate girl! Cremated or not, I am sure Uncle Mike will twinkle at you from the stars, or you will see his smile someday on the face of someone you do not know or hear his laugh as you open a door.That is why God lets our hearts remember better than our minds. If you find yourself missing him painfully, I suggest(if you can) planting a tree, rose bush, sweet autumn clematis, something that as you lovingly take care of it, you can talk to it and watch it grow and become beautiful.Davidhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00666135219142328347noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2049514221380220929.post-27718170039658985632012-10-13T17:57:03.072-04:002012-10-13T17:57:03.072-04:00Very sorry for your loss. My your charming uncle ...Very sorry for your loss. My your charming uncle rest in peace. How fortunate that you had him in your life. You wrote a lovely tribute to someone who must have been a very fine man.JulieStyleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09250867698565961431noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2049514221380220929.post-6954653606170752492012-10-13T17:49:17.854-04:002012-10-13T17:49:17.854-04:00So sorry about your loss, WFF, and may Uncle Mike ...So sorry about your loss, WFF, and may Uncle Mike rest in peace!<br /><br />Drink lots of water. Lately it's been the only thing to cure headaches for me. :)Rosehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05184724930345348154noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2049514221380220929.post-44798785244262387162012-10-13T17:36:15.062-04:002012-10-13T17:36:15.062-04:00Thank you all, my dears, it was a grand event. Thi...Thank you all, my dears, it was a grand event. Things I learned today about my godfather:<br />- he was a year younger than his wife and this was considered scandalous.<br />- as was the case for so many young men of his generation, the Great Depression obliterated the profession he had trained for and that's why he became a firefighter - there was me thinking he just never gave up the ambition he cherished when he was 4!<br />- he was irresistible to women until the end<br />- he was even older than I thought he was<br />- he never had a bad thing to say about anyone (well, I knew that) but had a very expressive "eye roll" (and again, I was never on the other side of that)<br />- my sister loved and enjoyed him just as much as I did. As we all did.<br />- his fellow elderly retired firefighters agreed with me about the mausoleum with two exits.<br />- never let a restaurant you don't know push the house wine ( actually I knew that as well, was just being polite, will have killer headache tomorrow)wellfedfredhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07118802089389931227noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2049514221380220929.post-27238880122454078242012-10-13T16:20:10.817-04:002012-10-13T16:20:10.817-04:00I'm so sorry for your loss. He sounds like a w...I'm so sorry for your loss. He sounds like a wonderful man. Caitlinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01172782486495509920noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2049514221380220929.post-80778808998446454122012-10-13T15:15:51.064-04:002012-10-13T15:15:51.064-04:00My condolences to you WFF. I am with you that peo...My condolences to you WFF. I am with you that people should be kept in a safe place so we can "visit" once in a while. If you scatter the ashes you lose that. JMHO.xoxohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12336645422459479330noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2049514221380220929.post-21141636284738130992012-10-13T15:07:27.344-04:002012-10-13T15:07:27.344-04:00I'm sorry for your loss. I had to attend the ...I'm sorry for your loss. I had to attend the funeral Mass of a dear friend this week and I wish I could have worn a veil like Jackie K to hide my devastation--there was a good reason for that tradition. Sunglasses and a handkerchief are no substitute. Hexiconhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00834188332983426624noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2049514221380220929.post-4707214309002372172012-10-13T13:28:55.284-04:002012-10-13T13:28:55.284-04:00Well, hello, this is a memorial, not a funeral and...Well, hello, this is a memorial, not a funeral and if they don't get some heavy food on the tables people may start singing soon. There are some seriously cute grandsons of the deceased walkin around .wellfedfredhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07118802089389931227noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2049514221380220929.post-83008745349195889752012-10-13T12:20:49.867-04:002012-10-13T12:20:49.867-04:00I always think that the rigor and pomp is what get...I always think that the rigor and pomp is what gets many people through such a terrible day. Focusing on mundane things such as dress can take your mind off off the tragedy. I think what my aunt was referring to was the visitors who were dressed in their finest black, as if they were attending an afternoon wedding. I straddle the line at funerals, and always feel over/ under dressed.Pat Olskihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08122299121164106652noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2049514221380220929.post-16282505820318907902012-10-13T10:41:03.199-04:002012-10-13T10:41:03.199-04:00Knit Yarns, my mum was the opposite when my Dad di...Knit Yarns, my mum was the opposite when my Dad died, I was an utter mess and was very vocally instructed that I had a duty to present myself impeccably for the 'sake of the family', it was hair/make up/pearls/heels/suit - we had a huge fight about it, my mum is old stock who like the Royal family do not show grief in public, I'm like a weeping Italian at the drop of a hat. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2049514221380220929.post-74035555737076781432012-10-13T10:38:20.956-04:002012-10-13T10:38:20.956-04:00Ah, what a lovely piece you've written, I like...Ah, what a lovely piece you've written, I like your idea of the mausoleum and wet bar, I just cannot get my head around the concept of the crematorium. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2049514221380220929.post-31004668151536681242012-10-13T10:38:00.587-04:002012-10-13T10:38:00.587-04:00I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. You've ...I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. You've paid him a wonderful tribute. I'm sure in the years to come you'll be heartened by the memories of him. Closet Crisishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01901050375126195972noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2049514221380220929.post-4275245601812471872012-10-13T10:29:33.079-04:002012-10-13T10:29:33.079-04:00I'm sorry for this loss, he sounds like a grea...I'm sorry for this loss, he sounds like a great man and so important to your family. I know you'll be perfectly put-together no matter what. Hope it all goes as well as it can!DaniBPhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02633155240779845497noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2049514221380220929.post-75102431457839142142012-10-13T10:27:06.588-04:002012-10-13T10:27:06.588-04:00Sorry to hear about your loss, but you have writte...Sorry to hear about your loss, but you have written a truly moving tribute to your uncle that will be appreciated by many. As far as the rest- I remember going to the funeral of a beloved family member when I was young, and my aunt looked appalled when some of the mourners showed up and she said quite audibly " A funeral is not a 'dress up' occasion. " Pat Olskihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08122299121164106652noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2049514221380220929.post-79127333650199544962012-10-13T10:22:30.397-04:002012-10-13T10:22:30.397-04:00Thank you, Jenli, I really do not like goodbyes. B...Thank you, Jenli, I really do not like goodbyes. But the stories that follow will have us roaring with laughter.wellfedfredhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07118802089389931227noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2049514221380220929.post-54111774483394811112012-10-13T10:21:30.285-04:002012-10-13T10:21:30.285-04:00Somehow, they always told the same stories when th...Somehow, they always told the same stories when the four of them were together. Only the digressions varied.<br /><br />There will be food. I will <i>not</i> be critical.wellfedfredhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07118802089389931227noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2049514221380220929.post-9796270912183314602012-10-13T10:19:02.419-04:002012-10-13T10:19:02.419-04:00Thank you, I thought of them both as stand-by pare...Thank you, I thought of them both as stand-by parents. As, I guess, one should.wellfedfredhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07118802089389931227noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2049514221380220929.post-24063697924316664682012-10-13T08:55:57.686-04:002012-10-13T08:55:57.686-04:00Beautiful tribute. Unfortunately a trove of wonde...Beautiful tribute. Unfortunately a trove of wonderful memories will not ease today's pangs of loss. Take good care of you today.Jenlinoreply@blogger.com